by Suz Remus
This post, written by Suz, is in response to and support of Dr. Childress’s recent post “Karen Woodall – Stop It“. Suz has been a force for change in helping to raise awareness of attachment-based parental alienation. She has been instrumental in getting the current bill introduced into the Florida state legislature which recognizes child psychological abuse and moves away from the controversy surrounding the term “Parental Alienation Syndrome”. She has also been instrumental in helping me get started in North Carolina, where at the time of this writing has gotten to the point of waiting to see if there will be a study bill I am calling Plan “P” that would get professionals involved sooner in cases where potentially alienating behaviors are demonstrated in the courtroom.
The epidemic began long ago… the importance of family and parental attachment got all muddled up somewhere.
I was born in 1958 and when I was 2 years old my mother played out what was the behavior of our times… that the “single parent” be glorified as “needy” and respected as “martyre” and that we must protect this special population. I don’t agree with single parenthood mentality. Stopping single parenthood and healing the special population of parentless children due to pathological cruelty, no matter their current age, must be society’s highest priority. My mother held me and my sister hostage. We had different fathers but we didn’t discover this until high school. She did the same with our brother. He is still alienated from his father (our stepfather). I found him and spoke with him because I do not believe we should have to lie to ourselves and live in alienation if we don’t want to as alienated adult children.
Because of Dr. Craig Childress, his clinical discoveries, and my studies, my mom has fessed up and my dad is speaking up. My dad knows this is a movement that he has endured… that began with him as a targeted parent. My mother now accepts my speaking freely about my love for my father and both (separately) believe in my love for my work to change the laws regarding child psychological abuse.
People! They are 83 years old. I am 58 and still grieving the loss of my childhood. As a mother I still do not see my 18 year old daughter although recently I found out from my older daughter, that me and my precious young one (her sister) had been “joined at the hip.” She told me that had it not been for something I did (she still believes the alienator is “all good”) we would still be so close. That’s a difficult pill to swallow.
Let’s go with the paradigm shift and give it our all! Gardnerians and the “ex”pert mentality must be put to rest.”