Not My Circus. Not My Monkeys.

Not My Circus. Not My Monkeys.

It’s been an interesting journey trying to navigate through this morass of what bright me to this point in my life. While everything has been about getting my child a relationship with both of their parents, it feels like that has been the tip of the iceberg.  I...
Want to be More Effective? DO NOTHING.

Want to be More Effective? DO NOTHING.

I know many of us tell those around us about how we are (and think other targeted parents are as well) constantly working on ways to help get our kids back or struggle to co-parent with a dysfunctional ex. But I’m willing to bet every single person has at times (more...
To Get to Shore You First Have to Stop Drowning

To Get to Shore You First Have to Stop Drowning

I am beginning to get more and more people writing me asking for help. At first I thought this would get to be too much in terms of being able to help, but experience has shown me that the best course of action is to write back a general response and then see what...
If Not You, then Who? (Part 2)

If Not You, then Who? (Part 2)

So, what other different questions did I need to ask and what different resolutions did I need to make? The second thing I HAD to confront and deal with what was making me tick. That was and is the the point where I have the most leverage. For me it was talk therapy,...
If Not You, Then Who? (Part 1)

If Not You, Then Who? (Part 1)

I’ve had more than one conversation lately regarding headwinds people face while working on getting their children back, and continually doing what they need to to keep things from blowing up once they’ve made a transition from being alienated to parenting...